[11:22 p.m.] - [2012-01-25]
According to Betty, she married a man she wasn't in love with so that she could move to a foreign country for a job opportunity. I call bullshit. I mean, it would be one thing if they had an understanding, but it wasn't like that. The guy meant to settle down and build a home with her, and Betty knew that. You eloped, Betty. You got yourself into something you had fully expected to remain a permanent commitment even though you could have gotten a working visa on your own.
According to Betty, she didn't tell anyone about the marriage because she knew that they'd try to talk her out of it. This I actually believe, but not entirely for the reasons she's giving. She dated this guy, against the advice of her friends, for some time before they eloped. Why? He certainly wasn't supporting her or affording her any great job opportunities then. It's simple: She liked him, maybe even loved him... or the idea of him... or the idea of love, at least. Not only that, but she allowed this guy to discredit the word of her friends by disparaging their characters, thus convincing her not to confide in us. (Divide and conquer.) This is not something you'd let a guy do if you weren't infatuated with him.
Everything she says and does rings untrue to me. Not like she's blatantly trying to mislead us, but rather like she's pandering to our interests. She didn't love her ex-husband because we wouldn't approve of that. She hugs us not because she's affectionate by trait but because *we* are affectionate with one another. Even the way she carries herself... the "grace" with which she moves is akin to someone practicing correct posture with a book on their head--too deliberate.
There's nothing inherently wrong with her trying to make friends. I just wish she was more *honest* about who she is rather than constantly aiming to please others (a fault she admits to, though not the the extent I'm purporting). However, there's also the possibility that this *is* natural for her and I'm reading too much into nothing. I just can't shake the suspicion that she's not revealing all of herself.
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